As a child, my mom always told me that your mouth can be your most powerful weapon. Meaning that the very words you speak can have the most influence on a situation; good or bad. I have always taken this into consideration in my day-to-day life because I am a firm believer that sometimes we speak our reality into existence, and it doesn’t stop there. The thoughts we think, and merely the energy we receive from external sources can have so much influence on what we manifest into our lives.
If you find yourself in adverse situations, back-to-back it is wise to evaluate your way of thinking, what you are saying, and the energy you allow in your life. Negative things manifest in negative environments. Preferably environments where the person typically has a “why me” mentality, a negative self-image, and interacts with negative people. We have to think about negativity like planting seeds. For every negative thing, we say or think; a seed is planted. We water those seeds with continuous exposure to negativity whether it be from the words we speak or from what others around us say or do. Eventually, those seeds grow and manifest themselves into our reality. Therefore, it is essential to protect your peace at all cost. It is necessary to think of yourself and treat yourself with the same respect and dignity you treat others with. If you wouldn’t talk to other people as negatively as you speak to yourself, then why not give yourself the same respect.
On the other side of this, you also must be aware of the people and behaviors you allow into your life as well. I understand that family and friends are significant and it’s hard to imagine life without them. However, if the things they say to you are always negative, you have every right to love them from a distance. I have had first-hand experience dealing with toxic friendships and felt the repercussions of them. When you have friends that tend to only come to you when they need to vent, it can be draining especially if they are just speaking negatively. As a friend, you want to help them, but at the same time, that negativity can begin to spew into your life. You start to have negative thoughts, your behavior changes, and you begin to wonder why bad things are manifesting in your life when in reality it has a lot to do with the company you are keeping. I found that in the past when I dealt with friendships like this, I began to feel depressed and unmotivated. I felt like I was carrying extra weight around with me. I was consistently exposed to negative energy from those friends, and because I was becoming so involved and just consumed by their problems; I saw that same lousy energy manifest into my life. I finally reached a point where I had to just say enough is enough. I can no longer deal with what’s on other people’s plates along with what’s on my plate. It was not good for my well- being, and it was not manifesting positivity in my life. The only thing I could do was love them from a distance and continue to pray for them.
With all of this being said, it is important to hold yourself accountable for the things that you say, think, and the energy you allow into your life. Of course, it is unreasonable to say that you will always speak or think positively all the time because at the end of the day life happens. But, for every negative, there should be a positive. When something terrible happens rather than continuing to fall into the trap of negativity counteract that situation by speaking positivity into your life. Also, it is important to remember when navigating the different relationships in your life they should match the same wave you are on. If you are all about positivity, then your relationships should be all about positivity. Sure, there are bumps in the road, but at the end of the day, if you are pouring positivity into them, they should be doing the same for you. And most importantly, while you are manifesting these good things into your life, you also have to make sure that your work aligns with this because you can stay positive, but your actions have to align with it to ensure you get the best outcome. Author, Stephen Richards says, “Reality is a projection of your thoughts or the things you habitually think about.” So, make sure your thoughts, words, and actions are a reflection of the reality you want.