Recently the feud between Azealia Banks and Cardi B was reignited, when past remarks and criticisms that Banks made about Cardi B resurfaced. This led to the ladies arguing with each other back and forth on social media. While both ladies are entitled to feel how they do and express their opinions openly. What could have been a chance for them to express their points of view more positively, and maybe even come to an understanding was missed because of the negativity that was spewed back and forth to each other. As a matter of fact, it became so overwhelming Cardi B had to take a hiatus from her Instagram.
In Light of, this situation, I just want to take the time to briefly talk about an issue that often occurs among women, and that is putting each other down. Nothing bothers me more than women who put other women down in any capacity. Despite all of us having varying levels of success in our own right and shaping our own lanes. For some reason, there is always this innate impulse from society or ourselves that makes us believe that to be successful we must compete against each other or tear another woman down to get to the next level. Having a competitive nature is okay. However, it shouldn’t come at the expense of belittling another woman. What we fail to realize is that there is more than enough room for us all to succeed and we work better as a collective rather than against each other. There is always more room at the table for more excellence among women. All the women who came before us helped pave the way for who we are today. They fought so hard for us to be seen as equals and force to be reckoned with in society. When we put each other down, we are undoing years of their hard work.
As we have seen time and time again in the media when it comes to a feud between two women that one incident tends to overshadow all the good that they have done before then. They are no longer seen as successful, intelligent, and hardworking women but more so as catty and problematic. People begin to recognize them more for their conflicts than their accolades. We need to rewrite this narrative that society has tried so hard to push on us. For years people have spread these fallacies that women are harder to work with, women don’t work well together, and women are always tearing each other down. We are more than how society tries to label us. We are way better than the catty remarks we say to each other. There is no need to dim another woman’s light when we can all shine equally.
We were all put on this earth to fulfill a purpose. None of us were given a time frame for when that success will occur or how to achieve it, but somehow we manage to pave our way. We should not be discouraged or angry because another woman reaches success before us, but instead, we should applaud her for navigating in a system and society that initially wasn’t designed in our favor. We have to understand that representation matters in any capacity, and there is a younger generation of women coming up, and they are watching us as we watched those before us. We must start setting a more positive example. We need more images of women embracing each other rather than fighting each other. We need more examples of women working together rather than against each other. We need more examples of women speaking highly of each other rather than tearing each other down. None of us have the right to criticize a woman for the way she looks, acts, speaks, or the level of success she has. We must face the fact that this world is hard enough as it is. So, we don’t need to make it harder for each other. At the end of the day, we need more solidarity in our womanhood, our sisterhood.
So, I just want to leave you with this thought. Before you speak negatively about another woman ask yourself, “What good is this going to do?” “What change is this going to bring in the world?” I can tell you that speaking negatively about someone is not going to make more money appear into your account, it not going to take you to a higher level, and it won’t make you more desirable. I have always been told what you say about somebody else says more about you than them. So, what are you saying about yourself?
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