I just wanted to come to you all with just a quick thought that has been on my mind recently. I’ve been thinking a lot about those “Letter to my Younger Self” articles that have been very popular for the past couple of years or so. As a matter of fact, I have read these articles countless times myself. I find it interesting to learn about others experiences and what exactly they would or would not advise their younger self to do. From reading these articles, I have noticed that the common themes of most of these letters are cautionary tales about love, friendships, growing pains, and other avoidable situations. I must admit that the intentions and the whole concept behind these letters are amazing. However, when I thought to myself, “What would I tell my younger self to do differently,” I realized I would not tell my younger self to do anything differently. I know it sounds crazy to not want to correct myself if given the chance, but I truly mean it when I say I wouldn’t want to do anything differently. I value those experiences because they were unique to me and my journey. What someone else goes through I may never experience and that’s okay. My experiences were uniquely shaped to get me where I’m going. I believe with experiences comes a lot of wisdom. No matter how bad a situation may have looked at a certain time in my life, I know that it was necessary for my process and my progress. All of the failed relationships, friendships, and life’s other inconveniences have molded into a masterpiece that is continuously being altered and improved day by day. From these situations, I was provided with many reality checks, I learned what I want out of life, and what I will tolerate.
Furthermore, if we denied ourselves or tried to avoid all the roadblocks that come with life, we wouldn’t have a marker or an appreciation for how far we have come. The truth is no one has a perfect life. We are all trying to figure life out in one way or another. We are not always going to make the right choices all the time, but we can make the choice to overcome them or be defeated by them. So, don’t overthink the things in life you can’t change those situations are temporary. Focus on how you can become that person you know you are destined to be. The people who write these letters and speak about them on their platforms are strong enough to do so because they have overcome the downfalls and they never let it detour them from being the person they were capable of being. I know that if I had avoided those situations I would have never experienced any growth I would have been content in my own naïve bubble. Looking back, I understand those situations were essential to getting to know who I am. The people and circumstances I was entertaining at that moment were simply a reflection of accepting what I felt I deserved at that time. I had to realize when enough was enough for myself.
With all of this being said, do not dwell or lose the essence of who you are over failed relationships, friendships, and any dark situation you may be in because years from now when you look back and you question yourself about what you would do differently. You will feel confident in knowing that all that you went through was not in vain and you will feel no regrets.
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